Settling down is as idle as fitting in. It is a product of a long period of repression – a series of identity loss, peer pressure, the call for normalcy, the tiring years of rebellion with no clear direction that ends up in the comfort of taking the mainstream track. We think we are tricking it, but later on we realize that it is all a compromise.

The youth was so full of ideas, and brimming with dreams, and passion. We thought we needed some clear direction to make sure that those ideals would somehow land us in a better life. Yet, it is a better life in a universal definition: a property, a family, a long time investment, a cup of coffee every morning, and a good sleep every evening. We started wild, then slowly, and sometimes unconsciously, stripped off all the things that made us exceptional to join the crowds.

For generations the exceptions must follow the rules. For generations the rules have threatened us with the notion that defying them means a life of unhappiness. For generations we have believed, and have tried to convince the next generation, that happiness equals comfort, certainty, and security.

That happiness is a good status quo.

We have denied that evolution is part of human nature. We seem to be receptive to the idea that men should reinvent themselves and welcome changes. But we place all those wisdom inside a huge box of comfort zone. And, to break the boundaries of comfort zone is unwise.

A comfort zone that says that men should marry and settle in a family; men and wives, men and husbands, women and wives. A comfort zone that is principally built by what we should own as basic needs: a roof above our heads no matter how small, two or three meals a day no matter how humble, and people who pay us respect when we rest in peace no matter how few.

And based on those minimum requirements of a happy life we are encouraged and motivated to live happier and happier. To be happier than the person standing next to us. And, that means to have something more than just a proper roof above our heads, better and “healthier” two or three humble meals a day, and more people we call friends and families. These ideas are advertised in all their glory, and mold the basic pride of humanity.

Oh, the pride of being normal. The pride of being the fittest. The pride of settling down in the most comfortable way.

The pride that keeps on minimizing the essence of being evolutionary. Even kills it completely.

When did you first compromise your dreams for a monthly salary to pay for your studio apartment? When did you first see that the idea of being what you have always wanted to be will not end you in a happy life? When did you first push the exceptional you to fit the box that your parents, friends, families, and society design for you?

Thousands of years ago civilization was built on the grounds of savagery. We used to dance with the lions – well or not. And now we turn the mighty king’s head into a logo of a hand soap. We have lost our respect to the wild, and automatically to ourselves as part of it.

We are nothing but tamed beasts. Caged bunnies.

The standards of good and bad are our prison bars that we made ourselves.

It is once again time for us to question normalcy. When in doubt ask differently. Should you really find a good person to settle down with? Should you really secure your future by a piece of property? Is ownership a solid rock to build your life on?

Is good good, is bad bad?

It is once again time for us to reevaluate our daily thinking. Is it natural for men to repress his desire?

Roam wild. Evolve. Stay restless. Or, just rest in their definition of peace.

Something like this:
A Conversation with the Gatekeeper
Conversations with the Gatekeeper
The Rules of the Game


A poor person needs to eat.

The first type of person will be kind enough to catch some fish, and give them to him. That’s compassion. The Saint.

The second type of person will give the bait, and even the fishing tools, and tell the poor to go catch some fish. The Investor.

The third kind of person may not give the poor anything but teach him how to fish. The Coach.

But there is also another kind of person who will say,

“People used to catch fish with their bare hands. Let’s try that together. Let’s find out how does it go. I’m sure we can do it. Then I’ll help you find The Investor and The Coach, and highly recommend them to help you because I’ve witnessed your hard work”

A Conversation with the Gate Keeper
A Simple Life Lesson from Swimming
The Nine Kisses

Casual talks around the screen.

The 18th Century Central Java has had a legion of female warriors to fight against the Dutch colonial soldiers. Rubiyah, a dancer from the small village of Matah, has a dream of becoming a princess. The beautiful girl keeps the dream within her spirit. One day, Raden Mas Said, a resilient warrior and lord whom Rubiyah adores wholeheartedly, passes the village. He is impressed by the beauty of Rubiyah.

Matah Ati opens with a vibrant showcase of female warriors, followed with the scented Rubiyah’s dream. The burnt incense quickly endorses a dreamy and mystical atmosphere inside the theater. On the 15-degree elevated stage with a 14-meter wide trap door, writer, director, costume designer, and producer B.R.Ay Atilah Soeryadjaya, creates a splendid sendratari – a Javanese form of opera – that displays the cheerfulness of a village, the sanctity of a meditation room, the horror of a battlefield, and the magic…

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Cosmic Screen

“I’ll do or say anything if I believe in it, but I have to believe in the cause.”

In many ways, Stephen Meyers (Ryan Gosling) personifies the perfect politician: frighteningly slick, irresistibly charismatic and, most importantly, capable to aspire idealism with a foot on the ground. He is young but more experienced than his more senior peers. He has seen it all and he has been through it all. And yet, he finds the capacity to believe in Governor Mike Morris (George Clooney) in the quest to clinch the Democratic nomination. The events that unfold in The Ides Of March, revolving around the decisive Ohio primary, will test his conviction and follow his transformation into the ultimate politician.

As the film follows Meyers’ trajectory, not Morris’, it wisely treats the primary as a backdrop, not the main arena itself. The film assumes that every character chooses to act in the most ruthless…

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